Dating and Hirsutism: How to Tell Them

Dating and Hirsutism: How to Tell Them

Dating is one of the many things that looks different these days thanks to the pandemic. The unfortunate thing is that dating with hirsutism (excess hair) may be just as tough as it was pre-pandemic for some people.

In this post, we will be talking about dealing with excess hair while dating and how/when to talk to the other person about it.

About hirsutism

If you are stopping by to my blog and know about or have hirsutism, feel free to skip over this! If you are stopping by and don’t know much about (or are just plain interested) it, feel free to keep reading!

Hirsutism is the clinical term for excess hair growth in women. The areas on the body that this growth occurs at includes the upper lip, chin, chest, back, abdomen, thighs, neck and jaw line.

While it is normal for women to have some hair growth in the aforementioned areas, hirsutism is different in that the hair is thicker and coarser. This means that you have to work a little harder to get it off than you would if it were just some light hairs (peach fuzz).

There is a scale that scores a person’s level of hirsutism severity. This is called the Ferriman-Gallwey Scoring System. Not all medical practitioners use this scale anymore because everything is subjective. For example, a person might only score a two on the scale for upper lip hair but for them it is more severe than that.

There are several causes of hirsutism and they include the following:

  • PCOS
  • Menopause
  • Congenital Adrenal Hyperplasia (CAH)
  • Cushing’s Syndrome
  • Androgen secreting tumors
  • Oral minoxidil
  • Obesity
  • Certain medications

Having hirsutism can cause depression. This is due to possibly not feeling feminine because of having the same hair growth patterns seen in men. Or if the hair is just simply unwanted. They may also feel embarrassed about it, too.

There are some ways that hirsutism can be managed and treated if one chooses to do so. They are as follows:

  • Shaving (razors and other types of shavers)
  • Waxing (professionally or at home)
  • Plucking
  • Epilator
  • Depilation- Be extra careful with this one!
  • Birth control (like Yaz)
  • Antiandrogen medication (like Spironolactone)
  • Vaniqa– This only slows the new growth and does no get rid of the current hair.
  • Laser therapy- This is more expensive than the other options. One should make sure to check out the pros and cons of having this done.
  • Electrolysis- This is more expensive than others on the list and can take up to two years of regular treatments to see results. One should make sure to check out the pros and cons of having this done.

Here is a wonderful resource for learning more about hirsutism: https://www.aafp.org/afp/2012/0215/afp20120215p373.pdf

How to date during a pandemic

Before we get into dating with hirsutism, it is important to know just how dating is done these days (if trying to be safe).

The pandemic has caused in-person things to be risky. This has made people turn to dating virtually. A person can meet someone on one of several dating sites or through someone they know and then continue the relationship through video calls.

Zoom and Google Duo seem to be popular choices to have video call sessions on. While getting to know each other on these platforms may not be as great as in-person, a good time can still be had and a wonderful relationship can bloom.

There are many activities that can be done outdoors. While they are safer than indoor activities, there is still a level of risk that seems to be higher now with this more contagious variant. This means that safety measures should still be taken.

In the event that people in a relationship want to meet and be close together indoors, they should proceed at their own risk. They could quarantine themselves for two weeks, get tested beforehand or just get together without any precautions.

Check out this webpage for more ideas on how to date safely during the pandemic: https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-date-more-successfully-during-covid-5113503

Dating and hirsutism

You can still get ready for a video call date!

Picture this…

You have been messaging someone on a dating site and are ready to have a video call with them. Looking nice and put together is something you think is important even if you aren’t meeting in person.

You decide to put on attractive clothes first-picking out the most flattering thing you have. Then you get your face ready. This includes getting rid of any hair that you may have on there (however you do it) due to hirsutism. You find the excess hair to be embarrassing and you do not want your date to see it.

So in that scenario, you are being proactive about making sure that your date does not know about your hirsutism so that you can make the best first impression.

Now, let’s picture this scenario…

Things have been going wonderful with this new person you found on the dating site. You talk to them often and enjoy each other a lot. One day you have a video call planned with them. Since you feel comfortable being without makeup on the calls, you don’t put any on.

You also forget to get rid of the excess hairs.

During the video, you see yourself and realize that those pesky hairs are showing and very visible. You start getting really embarrassed and hope that they don’t see them. This then causes you to feel distracted and cut the video call short.

The second scenario might be a little more of a nightmare for you. For it to not occur and be something you have to worry about-you may want to consider telling the other person about your excess hair.

Your hirsutism can be talked about in different ways and at different times. Here are some ideas on how to do it:

  • Tell them straight-up, right away- If you are a bold person, you could tell them shortly after meeting them. This could be really tough for some people. The good thing about it is that it would weed out people if the hirsutism makes them want to bounce right away.
  • Tell them after things have gotten a little more serious- This is something that you can do if you are not the most bold person out there. When a relationship has been building for a while, you may feel slightly more comfortable talking about your hirsutism. You could find a quiet moment in your video call to bring it up. There are good chances that they won’t care about the excess hair since they have been rocking with you for a while.
  • Anytime while playing “Get To Know Me”- You could suggest to play a game like this where you answer personal questions about yourselves. You may have to sneak it in to whatever question they ask that is related or strategically suggest a question that you both are to answer.
  • Email them- If you don’t have the courage to tell them on video, you can always email them about your hirsutism. Mention that it is really tough for you to talk about it on a video call.

Instead of never telling the person you are dating that you deal with excess hair and setting a timer/reminder to shave before each video call, you should really consider telling them about it at some point. Forgetting to take your excess hairs off before frequent video calls or in-person dates is something that is bound to happen a time or two.

How I did it

Just showing my dry, wrinkly hands to say that it all worked out!

My husband is the only person I ever dated (sad, huh?). Back when we were first getting together, my hirsutism was not as bad as it is now but still visible. At that time I was getting it all waxed off and didn’t think I needed to tell him about my diagnosis.

After a while, my hirsutism did get a little worse for whatever reason. One day I even caught him looking at my chin. That was when I decided that I needed to tell him about how I have excess hair due to PCOS.

I just sat there and told him all about it. He was not turned off by this at all (obviously since we are married now!). In fact, he knew other women who had PCOS and dealt with the same issues.

My hirsutism has gotten even worse these days, unfortunately. The great thing is that my husband says he doesn’t even notice when I go a couple days without shaving.

Maybe he is just lying out of love but I will take it. Sometimes I forget to shave or just don’t feel like it!

In conclusion

Dating can successfully happen even if one has hirsutism. If you think things might get more serious between you and the other person, being frank about the issue is something to consider. It is important to remember that if someone truly cares about you, they will see beyond some extra hairs on your face and/or body.

Does anyone reading this have hirsutism? If so, did it affect your dating life at all?

Thanks for reading!

#datingsites #freedatingsites #OKCupid #Zoom #PCOS #hormones #hirsutism #hirsutismtreatment #shaving #hairremoval

Zinc: What It Can Do for Hormones

Zinc: What It Can Do for Hormones

Many women/non-binary people with hormonal conditions are willing to try a lot of things to reduce or eliminate the accompanying symptoms of them. While there are medical interventions that exist, some are still interested in going the supplement route.

Zinc is one of the supplements that is said to possibly help with hormonal conditions and we are going talk all about it in this post!

Introduction to Zinc

Zinc is one of 118 chemical elements with an atomic number of 30. It is essential for living things due to the roles it has in keeping organisms healthy. In humans it is responsible for regulation and helping with the proper functioning of various systems.

The human body stores it in various places (i.e. organs and cells) but it is not found naturally in us. To obtain zinc, we need to either get it from food and/or take a supplement.

This mineral is used for industrial, supplemental and topical (ointments and creams) related purposes.

In terms of supplements, zinc comes in different types. These include gummies, liquids, lozenges, capsules and tablets. Some of them have the zinc combined with other minerals/vitamins or it is by itself.

There are several forms of zinc which include acetate, gluconate, picolinate, orotate, sulfate and citrate. These forms differ when it comes to absorbability, price and what it could specifically do for our health.

In terms of food, zinc is found in a variety of things. The foods with the highest amount of it include beef, pork, oysters, tofu, chicken, cashews, oatmeal and mushrooms.

Zinc and hormonal conditions

Zinc supplementation has shown to have some positive effects when it comes hormonal issues that plague many women/non-binary people. This is said to possibly be because of zinc’s ability to regulate hormones.

. The following are the hormonal related issues that supplementing with zinc may help with:

  • Fertility- Studies suggest that zinc may help shorten the time that it takes to get pregnant.
  • Metabolic syndrome in people with PCOS- A sufficient amount of zinc is essential for insulin regulation and for having a proper response to it. It also reduces glucose and triglyceride levels. Getting all of this under control reduces the risk for things like diabetes and heart disease.
  • Painful menstrual cramps- This problem is also called, dysmenorrhea. It is very common and can get in the way of having a quality life. Studies show that zinc has anti-inflammatory actions that may prevent and treat the painful cramps.
  • PMS- For some women, the levels of zinc get lower in the luteal phase (after ovulation and the two weeks before your period starts). Getting one’s zinc levels up during this time may reduce the brain sluggishness, mood swings and bad sleep.
  • Acne-The anti-inflammatory action that zinc has may help with the acne that can come with hormonal issues.
  • Excess hair- Many people with PCOS have too much androgens which then causes excess hair to form in unwanted areas (i.e. upper lip and chin). Zinc is shown to have anti-androgen effects so it may help reduce the amount of hair that is grown.

The above reasons are why quite a few professionals (the ones that are okay with supplements) that specialize in women’s/non-binary health recommend zinc supplementation for hormonal issues.

Magnesium and calcium are two other supplements that are touted as being great for hormones. Luckily, you can find products that contain all three things in one! An example of a combination product is this one by Solaray.

The dosage for zinc should be no more than 50 mg per day to avoid negative side effects. These uncomfortable effects include GI issues, chest pain, fatigue and headaches.

Other things zinc can do for our health

There are quite a few other things that zinc is said to possibly do for us. They are as follows:

  • Increase the strength of our immune systems.
  • Improve the frequency and severity of acne.
  • Improve age related vision loss.
  • Reduce signs of ADHD if taken with prescription medication.
  • Shorten lengths of colds.
  • Improve low moods.
  • Improve brain fog and memory issues.
  • Improve smell and taste ability.
  • Heal bed sores and diaper rash when applied in cream form.
  • Help with male fertility issues.
  • Help improve metabolic syndrome markers.

As with any supplement, the benefits of zinc are not definitive. However, there is a lot of good evidence for them.

Our favorite supplements

My husband and I both take zinc. I had stopped for a while but ever since I did more research on it- I have started taking it again. This is partly because I noticed that my cramps got worse when I stopped taking it (I use a health journal everyday!.

If you have a sensitive stomach, the lozenges I use are a great option. You can find them here.

My husband does not have a sensitive stomach by any sense of the word. Because of this, he is able to take a larger dosed pill from Nature’s Bounty that may be hard on some people’s stomach. You can find the product here.

Zinc may be the thing to try

If you are struggling with hormonal problems, you could give zinc a try. It may not cure you but it could end up helping you a little bit.

Are any of you taking zinc? If so, what do you feel it is doing for you?

Thanks for reading!

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Health disclaimer: I am not a doctor or any kind of a medical professional. I am not telling you what to do and nothing I say is a substitute for professional medical advice. You should consult with your doctor before making changes that could affect your health.

#zincsupplement #immunesystem #hormonalproblems #pms #pmddtreatment #pcos #health #women #nonbinary

Dietland + Review

Dietland + Review

I love a good show. There are so many different ones from different genres that I have enjoyed watching and I am always on the lookout for more.

A while back I came across the show called, Dietland. This is based off a book of the same name. After watching all of the episodes of the show, I decided to read the book.

For this post, I wanted to talk about Dietland and give my take on it.

The premise of Dietland

Both the book and movie have the main character whose name is Plum Kettle. She is a ghostwriter for a high fashion magazine and works mainly from home or a local coffee shop.

Plum is obese and is considering weight loss surgery. As the show/book go on she meets a group of people that are all about loving and finding power in themselves as women.

There is also a group of women who kidnap and kill men who had been allegedly assaulting women and young girls. Plum eventually gets sucked into this mission, too.

The readers and viewers get to see how she handles things when she delves into both of these worlds.

Dietland topics

There are several topics that Dietland (both the book and movie) touch on. They are as follows:

  1. Body image- There is a lot of talk about character’s bodies and how they see themselves because of them.
  2. Feminism- Women’s rights are discussed a lot. The two groups that the main character finds herself getting into are based on feminism.
  3. Dieting and societal weight loss obsession- Plum’s obesity is focused on a lot. She has done many diets since she was young and still struggles with finding the right diet as an adult.
  4. Fat acceptance- Plum tries to accept her body the way it is after a while.
  5. Standards of beauty- Dietland goes into what is and is not considered beautiful in our society. It also talks about all the things that women feel they have to go through to look good.
  6. Dating/Relationships- Plum tries her hand at dating which ends up being unsuccessful due to a couple of different reasons. It highlights the fact that appearance means so much to some people in terms of getting started with dating even if they are “clicking” personality wise.

There may be other elements in the show and book but the above list includes the main ones.

Differences between the book and show

There are some differences that you will find if you read the book and watch the show. Without giving too much away, they are as follows:

  1. Character addition- A couple characters were added to the show that were not in the book.
  2. Time spent on some characters/events- A couple of the characters/events played bigger roles on the show than the book and vice versa.
  3. Character descriptions- A couple of the character’s appearances, race and sex were changed on the show.

My review of Dietland

I first read about Dietland (the show) in Time Magazine just before it was to start airing. It sounded really interesting and I was excited about it.

I absolutely loved the first episodes and was eager to watch all of the others ones whenever they were available on Amazon Prime Video. Since I like to make lists, here is a list of some specific things I loved about it:

  1. Joy Nash, the actress that plays Plum (main character)- She is such a wonderful actress! I also think she is really pretty.
  2. Plum (main character)- I find her cool and smart. I would love to be a writer like her so I could work from anywhere. Definitely not doing the same kind of writing though.
  3. The underground beauty “closet”- I do not want to give too much away but I found it to be pretty cool.
  4. The radical feminist group story line- The drama and mysteriousness of the group of women killing specific men brought a layer of tension to the story. This made it even more interesting because I was curious to know what was happening.
  5. Weight loss program back story- There is a fictional weight loss program (supposed to be like WW, I think) that the main character was on. It was interesting to hear the story (fake story that is) behind it.
  6. Female empowerment- I loved the scenes that were about finding strength within.
  7. Special effects- The show included some animation. I found that it further helped to move the story along in a unique way.

There are even more things that I loved about the show but I will stop here.

As far as the book goes, I did not enjoy it as much as the show. The book’s story was more all over the place, dry and the main character was not as likeable as she seems in the show version.

Give Dietland a try!

The show version of Dietland (available on Hulu and Amazon Prime Video) was great in my opinion with its engrossing story and strong acting performances. I would highly recommend this. It can be a wonderful thing to watch as part of a self-care routine!

Have you read or watched Dietland? If so, what did you think about it?

Thanks for reading!

#dietland #saraiwalker #diets #feminism #women #weightloss #beauty #streamingservices #hulu

Be Careful with Supplements: My Experience with Evening Primrose Oil

Be Careful with Supplements: My Experience with Evening Primrose Oil

If you have read my other blog posts you would know that I am definitely not opposed to taking supplements. The unfortunate thing is that they are not always good for me.

A couple years ago, I tried taking evening primrose oil and I found out the hard way that it was not the right thing for my body. I wanted to share what happened to me.

About evening primrose oil

The evening primrose plants are native to North America. Needing full sun, the plants grow quickly and easily. They can produce yellow, pink, lavender and white colored flowers which may have a lemon scent to them depending on the variety

These plants are edible. The roots have even been used like vegetables in cooking.

The evening primrose oil is extracted from the seeds. It contains fatty acids that includes gamma linolenic acid, linoleic and omega-3. This oil is said to help certain health ailments which are as follows:

  1. PMS- Taking the oil by mouth may help with some symptoms women get before their periods.
  2. Diabetic neuropathy
  3. Osteoporosis
  4. Eczema
  5. Acne
  6. Dry eyes
  7. Rheumatoid arthritis
  8. Asthma
  9. Psoriasis

Evening primrose oil is sold in softgels to be taken by mouth and in the oil form. The dosage by mouth is between 1-8 grams.

It is important to note that ingesting this oil may cause the following side effects:

  1. GI issues
  2. Headaches
  3. Seizures in people with epilepsy or a general seizure disorder
  4. Adverse interactions with anticoagulant medications, anesthesia and anti-psychotics
  5. Making PMS symptoms even worse.

Why I wanted to start taking evening primrose oil

My physical PMS symptoms have been pretty severe for the past 5 years. The dread that I feel each month for certain parts of my cycle, is horrific. I hate it.

A couple of years ago, I had been on one of my many searches to find something that could help make my PMS easier to handle. I came across evening primrose oil on a forum and was really interested due to the positive experiences people were posting.

When I looked up evening primrose oil on Amazon, the reviews I read sounded great too. I became sold on it. I ended up buying a bottle of softgels from Sports Research and was excited for it to come in the mail!

First and last time taking it

I was in the midst of horrible PMS when my order arrived. Knowing that it would need time to build up in my system if it was going to work at all, did not deter me from taking it a few hours after I got it out of the box.

The dosage on the bottle has three softgels as a serving size. Since I am sensitive to things, I decided to take just one the first time and then work my way up. I made sure to take the softgel with a snack as it said to do on the bottle.

About thirty minutes after taking it, I noticed a warm feeling come over me. The warmth quickly changed to hot. It was like my skin was burning. I then got really dizzy and had severe nausea. Those feelings together were all too familiar to me.

I was feeling like I was going to have a seizure.

Seizures were something that I used to experience in the evenings. They went away once I started on medication thankfully. The fact that I felt I was going to have one again terrified me.

My husband was around to help me that night and tried to call me down.  I woke up the next day with no memory of what happened after my husband came into our bedroom and sat with me.

I did not know at the time if I definitively had a seizure or not. After reading recently that it is not good for someone with a history of seizures to take, I am leaning towards the idea that it did cause me to have a seizure.

Evening primrose oil was not good for me at all. It was a scary experience that I never want to have happen again.

Make sure to do research the supplements you want to take

If you read a blurb about a supplement and it says it may help with a health issue that you have, look into it as much as you can. This is important so you know whether or not you should take it.

I really should have looked at the adverse effects of evening primrose oil instead of just focusing on the positive things that people were saying about it. Things just do not work for everyone. I am really glad that it works for others though.

Still searching for something that will help me

My hormones are completely out of whack. They may be even worse than they were back when I tried the evening primrose oil.

I am currently on the hunt for a supplement and or dietary changes that will help me have better menstrual cycles. Living like this is tough.

Have any of you tried evening primrose oil before? If so, what was your experience with it?

Thanks for reading!

#supplements #hormones #womenshealth  #periods  #pms #pcos

My Body Hates Hormones! + Tried A Different Anti-Nausea Treatment

My Body Hates Hormones! + Tried A Different Anti-Nausea Treatment

A nice bathroom to puke in!

Okay so this totally sucks. Just after I scheduled my last post to go up that detailed this past menstrual cycle, my body decided to enter into a shitshow.

Let me tell you a little about it as well as what I took to relieve the nausea.

It was a little unexpected

I was coming off the high of a relatively mild menstrual cycle. Only one day of nausea, happiness most days, very little pain etc. For some reason I figured that my next cycle would be similar.

Well, I happened to be wrong. Way wrong.

I got to day nine of my cycle (August 20th) and a giant wave of horribleness washed over me. It was quite shocking. This was one of the days where our estrogen and testosterone levels get higher which means we are supposed to feel awesome. Yeah, that did not happen.

My body obviously did not like this shift in hormones. It told me this by causing me to feel nauseous, weepy, bloated, cramped up and achy. Not cool body. Not cool.

As I am typing this, I still feel pretty much like shit. Today is day 15 of my cycle which means progesterone is rising while estrogen and testosterone are dropping. With this shift can come even more nausea and unpleasant feelings in me.

Basically, this cycle will only include about four good days.

This is something that used to happen every month for me and it makes me sad that it has come back. I am hoping it is just a fluke.

Something new I tried

When my nausea continued to worsen and reach its peak on day 14, I decided to try taking something called, Meclizine. This is an OTC medication that is marketed to treat motion sickness and vertigo but it can also be used for any kind of nausea.

My husband bought a bottle of 1000 chewable tablets a while back but it was never my go-to nausea relief product. I felt like trying it because I thought it might be more powerful than the stuff I typically use.

I took one tablet, which has 25 mg of the active ingredient. They have a mild raspberry flavor to them and I did not mind it.

Within about 20 minutes I started feeling tired. I was really worried that that would be the only effect it gave me but once I got to the 45 minute mark, I could feel my nausea fading.

My upset stomach went away just enough that I could eat and get in my vitamins/supplements. Success!

The sleepiness that Meclizine caused me was the only drawback. I will still reach for one of these tablets the next time I need something strong for the level of nausea I am experiencing.

This is upsetting!

I hate how hormonal shifts make me feel and I would not wish this problem on anyone.

My plan is to keep documenting how I feel each day and what I eat just so I can figure out if there is something I am doing that is making the hormonal shifts so hard me. I just realized the My Calendar (menstrual cycle calendar) app on my phone allows for symptoms to be plugged in daily so I will be using that.

Do any of you have issues with hormonal shifts during your cycle?

Thanks for reading!

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